Conflict Versus Complaints

A lot of us have disagreements and conversations bringing discomfort, and anxiety about legitimate issues which sometimes divide us. We call that conflict, not complaint.

Conflict can be healthy, as long as we have resolution and reconciliation as the final goal of conflict. With conflict, as long as we have resolution/reconciliation in mind, can flush out hidden agendas, motives, demonstrating healthy honest differences of opinion.

When we look at these issues from an unbiased perspective, as hard as that is; it’s healthy, dealing with the realities of life, the situations we go through, and personal goals we have. These issues of conflict are now visible causes us to walk in integrity and honesty.

But what about complaints; are they the same as conflict? What happen when someone is dissatisfied and causes conflict…isn’t this the same thing?

I’m Confused

NO, not at all! Many times when we complain, we do so because we are not getting what we feel we are entitled to. We walk in an illusion of our own grandeur, believing our rights are more important than others.
We confuse these two based on our identification of and/or priority of our perceived needs and the obstacle that others place in front of us to have their wants/needs met by conflicting behavior.

Everybody experiences these types of situation. It’s a part of our culture which is obsessed with self.  It’s easy to fall into to this mindset because our economy is built around us as consumers. We deserve to be right and those whom want our business/money will do everything within their power to accommodate us. It’s easy to put pressure on the person behind the counter in order to get what we want. It’s easy to complain on “Yelp” because we waited too long for our Big-Mac. If your bold enough, you’ll talk to the manager because of their staffs boo-boo’s. We are the customer, and we’re always right.

The question must now be asked; is your Christianity about making sure you are delivered what you’re entitled to have? WELL…isn’t that the essence of grace? Nope! It’s not…the grace of God is to be emulated by us to those whom we meet and extend to them the grace of God. God’s grace isn’t about entitlement, our rights, and our privilege.

So What Is Our Privilege

It seems to me that we might be hoarders of God’s grace refusing to dispense it to those whom God has orchestrated to come into your life. Now you have the great privilege of extending grace to them. This extension of the grace of God witnesses to them the greatness of forgiveness within your life…not complaining, but forgoing your rights understanding that in the great scheme of things…you’re forgiven, and your forgiveness goes in front of you…not as an afterthought, but a forethought.

Some of the inspiration of these thoughts came from other authors, and things I’ve been considering for a long time. One writer puts it this way.

“From what I’ve seen, getting what you’re entitled to in this life fights against finding what has the most value in the next. A flood of complaints at the register rarely fights for the soul of the person behind it. In winning the battle for entitlement we may very well lose the battle for eternity. Consider the battle today. Consider it when you step up to order. Consider it when things aren’t up to what you feel you deserve. Consider it when you begin your complaint. Then find a better way.”

Living Churches

The necessity of regeneration and sanctification by a constant dependence on the Holy Spirit, for the assistance and strength in living the Christian life results in living churches. While dying churches, somewhere along the way, began to subtly and perhaps imperceptibly, barely noticing, they quench, grieved or usurped the Holy Spirit of God when they took matters into their own hands.

How to get more from a sermon Posted on July 16, 2014 by Joe MCcKeever

“And there was a certain young man named Eutychus sitting on the window sill, sinking into a deep sleep; and as Paul kept on talking, he was overcome by sleep and fell down from the third floor, and was picked up dead” (Acts 20:9). 

Principle number one: Stay awake.

Okay, that’s all I have to say about Eutychus.  But we can use him as a poster child for people who get very little or nothing from a sermon, agreed?

If you live a long time and go to church regularly, you will hear thousands of sermons.  It seems therefore that at least one message should be devoted to the subject of how to get the most out of them.

Let’s let this be the one.

Tagamet and Pepcid A/C, Prilosec and Omeprazole, are popular acid blockers.  Take one before eating a pizza or other spicy foods in order to avoid heartburn.  The pills shut down the flow of stomach acid.  This is all right once in a while, yet it’s not recommended regularly for the simple reason that the digestive system counts on bile (stomach acid) to help in the digestion.  A few years back, doctors put me on a seven-day regimen of pills designed to destroy the H. Pylori bacteria in my stomach.  Two of the pills were antibiotics and the other shut off the flow of acid into my digestive system.  For one solid week, in order to heal my system, I was not getting full value from my food.

Let’s talk about people who do not get full value from the sermons they hear.

These people may be taking SERMON-BLOCKERS.  When the pastor gets up to preach, they….

–nitpick him. They listen for grammatical errors or doctrinal lapses. They check out his clothing, his haircut, and mannerisms. They look to make sure his wife is in her place and their children are behaving.

–plan the week ahead.  They take out their iPad or a piece of scrap paper and make notes on people they need to see, projects needing their attention.

–shift into neutral and become passive.  Granted, that’s better than throwing it into reverse and becoming hostile. (I had that happen once in a prison. The inmates clapped and stomped their feet in order to drown out my sermon.)

–send their mind off on a mini-vacation.  I once watched a movie in the dentist’s office as he performed a root canal in my mouth.  I was almost unaware of what he was doing. There are people who wish they could do that in church.

–listen with their ears but not their hearts.  As Dennis the Menace once told his mother, “I hear you but I’m not listening!” When church is over, they can’t even tell you what the sermon was about.

–do not bring faith to what they are hearing.  Hebrews 4:2 speaks of this phenomenon. “The word they heard did not profit them because it was not united by faith in those who heard.”

These people may hear thousands of sermons, but they do not benefit from them because they are resisting them, not listening to them, and not believing them. Such people are literally wasting their time by coming to church.

Three “pre-suggestions” on how to make the most of the sermons you will be hearing….

1) Get saved. After all, “the natural man does not receive spiritual things; neither can he discern them as they are spiritually discerned” (I Corinthians 2:14).  You want to have a heart receptive to the things of the Lord.

2) Plan in advance.  Get enough sleep the night before, then rise early.  Have a quiet Sunday morning.  Bring your Bible to church. Take notes.  Sit where there are fewest distractions.

3) Pray for the pastor throughout the week while he’s doing the work of a shepherd and preparing the sermon. Ask the Lord to anoint his ministry, to encourage his spirit, and to show him wonderful riches from His word.

If you have prayed for him faithfully during the week, I can guarantee that you will approach the Sunday service with more eagerness and higher expectations.  (Caution: Always put those expectations on the Lord, not on the man.  The Lord is your Shepherd, and He will give you what He wants you to have.  I have had members tell me they prayed for my preaching, but then reject everything I said from the pulpit.)

Three instructions from God’s Word for those who listen to sermons….

First: Listen actively and expectantly for the voice of the Lord.

“When you received from us the word of God’s message, you accepted it not as the word of men, but for what it really is, the word of God, which also performs its work in you who believe.” (I Thessalonians 2:13)

When you hear a sermon, listen for the Lord.  If you are in a Christ-honoring church, sitting before a Godly minister preaching from the Book, you will be hearing from the Holy Spirit.  Accept this as from Him.

Second: Look up the scriptures cited and study them.

“Now these (Bereans) were more noble-minded than those who were in Thessalonica, for they received the word with great eagerness, examining the Scriptures daily, to see whether these things were so” (Acts 17:11).

If you don’t have time in the worship service to look up references the pastor is giving, write them down and find them later.  Then, if you are puzzled about the pastor’s interpretation of a verse, call him.  Maybe you misunderstood him or are missing something in the Word. He will appreciate that you are taking this seriously, and the next time he’s in his study preparing a sermon, he will be reminded that some in the congregation are on their toes.

Third: Listen to the sermon for instructions from the Lord for you personally.

“But prove yourselves doers of the word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves”(James 1:22).

Question: How do hearers of good sermons and lovers of great teaching deceive themselves?  Answer: By convincing themselves that in hearing a teaching they have obeyed it.

Hearing and obeying are two separate things.

“Knowledge puffs up” (I Corinthians 8:1).  That is to say, some people grow spiritually obese from gorging themselves on the rich food of spiritual banquets.  They need to push away from the table and go to work.

Obeying the Word–that is, applying its message to my daily life–is the object. John 13:17 should be a major pillar in every believer’s life:  “If you know these things, blessed are you if you do them.”

The blessing of heaven was never promised to those who love the word or read it, who memorize it or teach it, who publish it or even proclaim it. Heaven’s blessings are upon those who obey the Word!

I can tell you for a fact that if you have no intention of obeying the message you are hearing, you will find great faults with it and get little good from it.  The enemy of all that is good and the attacker of everything righteous will see to that. He loves to assist those looking for reasons not to obey the Lord.

Only the obedient receive.

“Trust and obey. There is no other way to be happy in Jesus.”

“For this purpose I wrote to you, that I might know the proof of you, whether you are obedient in all things” (2 Corinthians 2:9).

“If you love me, keep my commandments” (John 14:15,21,23).

“Therefore, everyone who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on a rock” (Matthew 7:24).

Spurgeon, beards, and cigars

I’ve been asked why I now am sporting a beard. Here is a quote from the most quoted preacher around, Charles Spurgeon – The Prince of Preachers “Growing a beard is a habit most natural, scriptural, manly, and beneficial.” In case you didn’t know he had a beard and smoked cigars…no I’m not going to start smoking cigars…hahaImage

Moving From the Elementary Things of God

 Revelation 21: 1-2; “Then the angel showed me a river with the water of life, clear as crystal, flowing from the throne of God and of the Lamb. 2 It flowed down the center of the main street. On each side of the river grew a tree of life, bearing twelve crops of fruit, with a fresh crop each month. The leaves were used for medicine to heal the nations.

This section of Scripture is quoted from Ezekiel 47. In Ezekiel we can see a deeper meaning as the Prophet Ezekiel and John the Revelator metaphorically using to press us into searching deeper into the Spirit of God. Some things concerning God we find some easy to understand as the water up to the ankles; others more difficult, which require a deeper search such as the waters up to the knees or loins; others beyond our reach, of which we can only adore the depth of which we find bottomless as Romans 11:33 states; “O the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! how unsearchable are his judgments, and his ways past finding out!” Also see Romans 8:39; Ephesians 3:18.

The deepening of the waters in their course shows the continual deepening of spiritual life and multiplication of spiritual blessings in the growth of the kingdom of God. So long as the stream is confined to the temple-courts, the residing of the Holy Spirit in the lives of believers upon conversion, others don’t see the greatness of God’s presence, and for the most part goes unseen by the casual observer. In order for them to see and acknowledged God’s abiding Presence, they need to see it flowing from our lives. Too strong is God’s abiding Presence, too great to be held up within the dams of our lives. It needs to overflow the limits of our humanity, breaking through the borders of our lives to not only invade every part of us but flow out to others.

So here in these Scriptures we see the Abiding Presence of God proceed from the courts of the Lord proceeding out of the temple and all at once it begins to deepen and to widen.

This is what happened on the day of Pentecost as the Holy Spirit descended upon this small company of believers, a little and then overflowed its banks into the lost world the early church lived in. this infant Church in Jerusalem is the beginning to all of us today.

The end result of this river is the flushing of the Dead Sea of our lives enabling a fruitfulness that feeds the nations and heals the land.

This fruitfulness depends on adequate source of water. How can we bear the fruit of the Spirit without this abiding river of God.  In Galatians 5:17-21 Paul is contrasting fruit to the “works of the flesh.”  Our “works of the flesh,” are the outcome of our actions independent of God’s abiding presence in our lives. It is the “thorns and thistles” of like what we see in the Garden of Eden which happened through sin. Thorns and thistles represent our untamed nature. In other words when we remain unfruitful the thorns and thistles of our lives strangle our spiritual life.

We need the water of God’s presence to cause our fruitfulness to feed others of the goodness of God.

And the gospel shall be preached…to millions.

Lille McCloud, a 54-year-old mother of three and grandmother of seven, who stepped onto the stage with her afro and leather pants, moved the audience, the viewers, the judges and earned a standing ovation with her performance of Cece Winans’ “Alabaster Box.”

Is This Our Modern Culture

It took people about three days to stop talking about Miley Cyrus’ performance at MTV’s Video Music Awards. She and pop star Robin Thicke performed a raunchy song while scantily dressed Miley — to put it mildly — pushed the boundaries of her already shaky reputation.

A few days later Miley compared herself to Britney Spears and Madonna, whose own performances at the VMA’s caused similar stirs years ago. According to Miley, she and Thicke “made history.”

I’m sorry, Miley but you didn’t make history. Martin Luther King Jr. made history with his “I Have a Dream Speech.” The slaughter of innocent Christians in Syria and Egypt is history. Christ’s resurrection is history. I could go on and on, but you get my point. This raunchy performances on the VMA’s is just a blip on our moral landscape which will be forgotten tomorrow not affecting life as we know it. For that, we thank God!

The level of self-absorption from the entertainment industry is about as offensive as the raunchiness. And it’s sad. What a small, small view of the world.

If culture is setting the pace for our culture we are in trouble, but thankfully it doesn’t. Yes, it has influence…but if the entertainment industry goes away tomorrow, we will survive. 

I think that the most depressed would be sports fans.